You don’t own me was originally written by David White (of the Doo Wop quartet Danny and the Juniors) and John Madara, who both also wrote “At the Hop” and was performed by Lesley Gore at the age of 17. The song has been covered by artists such as Joan Jett and Dusty Springfield, but I’d like to take this time and talk about my favorite cover, by Bette Midler, Diane Keaton, and Goldie Hawn in the 1996 movie The First Wives Club.
This movie (please, please, please watch it if you haven’t already!) takes place in New York City where three friends rekindle their friendship after a friend of theirs jumps off the roof of her penthouse apartment and sadly passes away. They are all in different stages of divorcing their husbands and team together to take revenge on their horrid lovers. They then decided, after taking their wealthy exes for all they have, to create a center to aid abused women.
This performance epitomizes the overall tone of the movie; that you can’t be “owned” by your significant other. It’s easy to fall in love with the movie, but impossible not to fall in love with their theatrical and empowered feminist performance. I mean, look at Diane Keaton. She is absolutely adorable! You can tell that her character has matured from desperately trying to rekindle the romance in her failed relationship, to knowing and believing that she is a strong woman who doesn’t need anyone else to be happy.
This my friends is exactly how all women should feel in the 21st century. I will refrain myself from heading down my own slippery first generation feminist slope (ah, hello, I am a social worker), but will just say that I think it’s easy to get caught up in a relationship and even easier to lose yourself in it (Come on’ we’ve all been there!).
Anyways, let’s give it up for those moves. When was the last time you saw three middle aged women look that good in white?